I met Laura at a business course, she’s 24 and is contemplating starting her own business. As the day goes on, I can see her feeling more and more intimidated by the confident characters around her. I feel as though she will not return after lunch, she will use the break as an escape and slide back into the darkness of the ‘complicated’ routine she calls life. She is the type of lady who is the life and soul of the party and has loads of friends, she’s amazing, when she’s there, but she’s not there, she’s here…
At lunch we go to the local restaurant, I go through my ‘Star of Life’ activity with her to gage the areas of her life she feels cause her most difficulty.
I observe her star, many low scores, I process the results in my head and say “ok we don’t have long left, so, from everything you’ve said, I think we need to delve into you relationship side, as once you feel better about that, all of the other things on your list will start to rise by default.”
She agrees and we spend the remaining 15 minutes and the walk back to the course discussing her relationships in more detail.
“It was great, you can really break down what others can’t see! I knew all of this stuff, but it was too much in my head. Therefore, the way that you break it down is amazing!! Thank you!! I feel more positive, like I shouldn’t get overwhelmed, you understand me and help me reflect… About all the relationship stuff, it made me realise that if something’s not making you happy, it’s like gone off milk. So open the lid, pour it down the sink. It put things into perspective for me and I need to focus on what makes me happy. I’m totally over him. It may sound crazy, but I’m like that. When I make up my mind, it’s made. When you’re trying to be positive, you don’t need the negative. Today is the start of my life.